Excited for the rest of 2020

This past few weeks I have finally found myself coming up above water after feeling so down for the last few months. To understand my situation, my last year went as follows:

  • Jan 2019: Ex boyfriend pops back up into my life : We become good friends
  • March 2019: My grandfather dies
  • October 2019: Ex boyfriend who became my best friend cuts me out of his life for a girl he met a week prior, also sends nasty email saying if I die he wont care or come to my funeral. (Ok, boomer)
  • December 2019: A friend from college passes away form an auto-immune disease.

To be clear, I am not wallowing in pitty anymore and asking the universe why me, that stopped in November. However, I am struck by the level of combustion particularly around the same time. Somehow, I started to feel less stuck in the beginning of January and can say that even though some drama occurred this week, I feel fine about it. I can’t say that I am happy about how I reacted or even reacted at all, but I am not beating myself up about it. I shouldn’t feel bad for asking someone to respect me which is honestly the bare minimum of humanity. I am finally busy with my paralegal program and am looking forward to the rest of the year.




I don’t know how many people will read this, but as writer Cyril Connolly said, “Better to write for yourself and have no public than to write for the public and have no self.”

So when I am feeling angry, sad, or losing hope I put my headphones, turn up the volume and blast Robyn’s Dancing on my own.



2020 vision

2019 was a challenging year that threw many adult situations at me but ultimately forced me to choose my life path and reflect on my own part in it. It has only been recently that I’ve felt my head come above water from the waves of 2019. I lost my grandfather, my best friend and I had a falling out, and a friend from college passed away, all in a 6-month span. While the falling out and the death of my grandfather did hit me hard, the death of a friend I had once been very close with in college hit me harder than any of those. She, like I do, battled chronic illness.  While after college we fell out of touch, for no particular reason other than life got the best of us, I always admired her perseverance and positive outlook on a situation that to others would be crippling. Her death in late December, not even a month ago, caused me to reflect on my own attitude about life and how I’ve perceived myself, my situations, and my own illness.



The start of the new year is often a time to start over, a time of reflection, and a time of change and inspiration. I know my friend would not want people to be sad about her death. Rather, she’d want people to be their own advocate, embrace their circumstances, and be grateful and happy to be healthy. I don’t know what 2020 holds, and 2019 was an extremely difficult year. However, my friend’s attitude was life is what you make it.


I often find myself writing in hard times or when wanting to reflect on life. Both seem to be happening simultaneously. I love the people who are there for me, but I often find myself spending a lot of time alone and I want to find my tribe. Sometimes in life situations, people, or both knock you down and you have to either pick yourself back up  or let it become you. While positivity is something I naturally embrace, in times of hardship it’s hard to see the light. Someone who I once highly respected and called a good friend has been absolutely cruel to me. I am not saying I didn’t do absolutely anything but I have done what was asked of me and I am still being made the monster and it’s a hard situation to find yourself in when the person who you once admired apparently hates you and you don’t really understand why. I wanted to start 2020 off positively and I am making a conscious choice to not let toxic people, painful situations, and hurtful words into my life anymore. As Nina Simone eloquently said, “You’ve got to learn to leave the table when respect is no longer being served.”